5 Poisons You Must Avoid to Maximize Your Life

“Life’s problems wouldn’t be called “hurdles” if there wasn’t a way to get over them” 
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5 Poisons to avoid to maximize your life

Life is constantly about change, it is forever moving. I have discovered as I get older, it seems time is passing by at fast break speed. The days, weeks, months and years appear to be passing at a record pace. But, when I really think about it, time is moving at the same pace it has always moved.

Each of us has the same twenty-four hours a day and one-hundred, sixty-eight hours a week. The key question you should ask yourself is ‘what am I doing with my time’.  If you are not using your time to progress towards your life’s vision then you are stuck.

If you feel stuck where you are, you must choose to move. You can’t afford to forfeit any more time stuck where you are. Time is too valuable and precious. If you desire to come out of a stuck situation, here are five poisons you must avoid.


1.  Playing the blame game. Too many people have a habit of blaming others for their circumstances. Their parents let them down, the company did not treat them fairly, the government was at fault and the list goes on and on.

We can spend too much time blaming others instead of looking in the mirror at the real culprit, you. You may have to admit that your situation is a direct result of the choices you made.

If you want to grow to your full potential, you must learn to take responsibility for your life. Accept where you are, take responsibility for it, learn from it, make necessary changes and move forward.


2.  Letting fear dictate your life. If you have realized your vision and are ready to live your dreams, you will encounter situations that will fill you with fear and make you feel uncomfortable.

If your vision is bigger than what you can handle, fear will tell you that you are not capable or worthy to accomplish it. Fear will attack you with an all-out assault to encourage you to give up on your vision.

Fear’s job is to discourage and dissuade you to walk away from doing what you are capable of doing. You must take a stand. Tell fear to get out the way because you have a vision to live.


3.  Ignoring your purpose.  God created you to fulfill the purpose He designed for your life. If you ignore your purpose, you ultimately disqualify who you are. You say to God, “who you created me to be is not worth the effort’. Your purpose is bigger than you.

When you ignore your purpose the enemy wins and you and those connected to you lose. Whether you realize it or not, when you choose to live your purpose, you come alive and impact those around you.

Your purpose anchors you and keeps you focusing forward, regardless of what others are doing or saying. It is better to live your purpose imperfectly than to ignore your purpose and not live it at all. 


4.  Allowing negativity to infiltrate your mind. We live in a very negative world. We are bombarded at every angle with some kind of negativity. Turn on the news and the first several stories are about murders, robberies, diseases and disasters.

Listen to a majority of people conversations and it is about how bad things are. If you look at your situation, you can easily find something negative to talk about. Negativity is everywhere. It can be hard to escape.

Negativity is like weeds, if you don’t kill it from the roots, it will keep coming back. It wants to grasp your mind and rule your thoughts. It wants to block your focus so you can’t see your potential possibilities. Negativity will leave you frustrated and discouraged about life. But, there is a way out.

You must make it a priority to avoid negative people, places, things and habits. Don’t give up or give in to consuming the garbage these negative sources are trying to pour into your life. You can choose to feed your mind a more balance meal of positivity, optimism and hope.


5.  Exhausting your time reliving yesterday. Yesterday is gone and will never come back. It is a part of your life that you will never get back. The only thing you can do about yesterday is to use it to help improve your today so you can live a better tomorrow.

You can’t live a better today if you are stuck on what happened yesterday. What you should or could have done yesterday is a fleeting memory. You can’t rewind time and get a redo.

Your moment is right now to do what you need to do. If you don’t do it, then today will eventually become yesterday and you would have missed another chance.

Don’t miss doing what you need to do today because you are still focused on what didn’t happen yesterday. Change your focus to the present, live your best today and tomorrow will take care of itself.


These five poisons are not an exhaustive list, but I found these to be critical in my life and the life of many people I talk to. You can break free from their crippling grip if you desire. The choice is yours.



Question: What can you do to avoid or overcome any one of these poisons to live your best life? Leave a comment below.



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I am the CEO of Lead to Impact, a personal, leadership and team empowerment company. I am the author of Vision Impact!, Goals Matter!, Man Up! Rise to the Challenge and It's In You to Win. I love to coach and train individuals and organizations using my inspirational, interactive and instructional presentations. My life's assignment is to help bring out the color within individuals lives by encouraging, equipping and empowering them to realize and live out their God-designed vision.

  • Wow, these are some powerful truths! You have some hard punches here. This one really hit me, “who you created me to be is not worth the effort’

    How we act (or don’t act) speaks loudly about what we think of God. I want my actions and life to say HE is worthy of praise! He is worthy to follow. He is worthy of any cost.

    • Thanks for commenting TC. This entire post is a reflection of some of the things I constantly battle in my. I know through Christ I have victory over each area.

  • I struggle and daily have to overcome fear. Fear I don’t have the skills, ability, or am worthy enough to move toward my God given purpose and dreams. I try and stay focused on what God has spoken to me through His words and Word. Great thoughts Bernard!

    • Dan, the only way to overcome fear is to believe and trust who God has called you to be. I will be in prayer for you as you continue to overcome fear. I encounter the same battle.

  • That’s a powerful list, Bernard. “The buck stops with me and fear has no power over me, for I was made with a purpose by God almighty and the lies of this world are under my feet along with the weeds of yesterday.”

    You inspired my little summary speech. It’s good to be encouraged! Thank you, sir!

    • Thanks for stopping by Floyd. I love the quote. I will have to use that one day. That is my purpose to encourage, equip and empower people.

  • That’s a great list, Bernard – fear is probably the biggie for me, and it’s often what causes me to procrastinate – which is probably the biggest reason I don’t accomplish more. I’m getting better, though – I actually finished my whole list today! Yay! (And it even included four hours of writing on it!)

    • Barb, fear is my biggie. I am learning to push forward through the fear. It is a constant battle, but I know God has equipped me and you to overcome it. Glad you were able to finish your list. Four hours of writing is good.

  • Very powerful. Thanks for the reminder. I love what you said about purpose. My post this week had a similar message. It appears we are like-minded. 🙂

    • Thanks for the comment Dave. I will check out your post.

  • I think fear is a big time waster for me, but in a different way than you describe. I’m the type of person that tends to take my fears head-on, and I end up spinning my wheels researching about my fears instead of tackling what I should be tackling. Fear sets my to-do list instead of being productive.

    • Loren, great point. I never looked at fear from that angle.