At least once in your life, you have probably encountered a naysayer. A naysayer is a person who always has something negative or contrary to say. Naysayers love to speak their opinion whether it is valid or not.
They say things like, ‘Why do you want to do this because you have a good job. You do not have the right credentials or experience. Think about what might happen if you fail”.
Who are the naysayers? They maybe your spouse, parent, sibling, coworker or a friend. You go to them full of excitement seeking their support and they shoot you down. You tell them about what you desire to do, but instead of receiving words of encouragement and support, you hear words of doubt and fear.
Several years ago, I encountered a naysayer. He told me what was impossible for me to accomplish. Some of the things he said were true, but because they were true did not mean I could not accomplish my dream.
I was the General Manager for a climbing rope manufacturer. I had to design and market a climbing harness. I had no previous climbing or design experience. I knew nothing about sewing and the products that went into the production of a climbing harness.
The naysayer kept telling me what I could not do. I refused to let him talk me out of at least trying. I did tons of research, talked to expert climbers and store owners. I found out all the information I needed to build a solid harness.
After a few months of learning the intricate details of what it took to build a top notch climbing harness, I put the learning to action. I designed a harness and the marketing to introduce it to the climbing market.
It took a lot of work, but with the help of a team of people, I was able to introduce my first harness to the climbing market. And to my surprise and the naysayer’s surprise, the harness was rated an “A” in its category for four years straight.
I did not rub the success in my naysayer’s face, I let the “A” rating and thousands of sold harnesses do the talking for me. I learned three valuable ways to diffuse naysayers.
- Protect your vision.
Whenever you have a burning desire to do something great in life, it’s very hard to not tell everyone you know. You are excited about your vision and you want to tell others. As I have learned, you cannot tell everyone. Your personal vision is too precious to let other people taint it. Protect your vision.
Every second you spend listening to what naysayers have to say about your vision is just like pouring acid over your dreams. Don’t give naysayers the opportunity to damage your vision because they don’t see it. Don’t let them distract your vision’s pursuit because of your past mistakes and failures.
You protect your vision by minimizing the amount of naysayer’s in your life by not telling everyone about your vision. Share it with a few people that you know will encourage you and help protect your vision.
- Surround yourself with a strong support system.
Think about the people who are supportive or would be supportive of your vision if you told them. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, not those who drag you down. If you want to do great things in life you need to surround yourself with a strong support system. You need to connect with people who will support your vision and who will be a listening ear.
There will always be people who tell you what you can’t do. They will provide the statistics and data that will discourage you from living your dreams. And then there is that little voice inside of your own head that says “what am I doing? I should throw in towel.” Don’t Listen to Them! Believe in yourself. Visualize your success and persevere.
Don’t let anyone keep you from living your authentic life. You know what you want. You know it’s in your heart to create an extraordinary life for yourself and those connected to you. If anyone is currently trying to hold you back from living your best life (intentionally or not), take the necessary steps to disconnect from them so you don’t become trapped in a life of mediocrity.
- Take immediate action.
Focus on what you can do in the present moment. Don’t worry about what you should have done last week or what you might be able to do tomorrow. The only time you can affect is the present. If you focus too much about the past or the future you won’t get anything done. Tomorrow or next week frequently turns into never.
Do you want to start exercising? Do you have a great business idea? Do want to change careers? Eliminate the things you do from day to day that distracts you from taking action for example TV, social media and listening to naysayers. Take action now. The longer you hold on to an idea without acting on it, the weaker it becomes and the more leverage you give words of the naysayers.
“The greatest prison people live in, is the fear of what other people think”
Question: What can you do to diffuse a naysayer in your life?
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